Here's to Your Magnificence!
Issue 110
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In This Issue:
Greetings
Upcoming Classes and Groups I'm Facilitating
The Lesson of the Wild Boar
What I've Got on Facebook
Forgiveness and Gratitude
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Greetings
Hopefully you are faring well these days.
If things feel a bit rocky, don't worry, you are not alone.
I talked in the last newsletter about relationships being
challenged at the moment. The way I presented it feels like
a serious understatement based on the calls I've received
in the last few weeks.
People are experiencing some truly wild and totally unexpected
situations that are throwing them way off center. From feeling
total devestation to absolute rage to uncontrollable tears
- the emotions people are expressing are in the extreme. And
many of them are calling me for help.
It always amazes me when a person calls in a complete panic,
totally freaked out, or in hysterical tears. The first thing
I do, of course, is listen to the crazy story they have to
tell - without judgment. Then for the rest of the conversation
I say whatever I'm "guided" to say. I'm also sending
energy that helps dissolve whatever needs to be dissolved,
clear whatever needs to be cleared, and gain clarity and strength
in the places those are needed.
Almost as soon as I start talking, though, they calm down
and become more at peace - which is light years from where
they started. But the truly amazing thing to me is the fact
that most of these phone calls end with the person actually
laughing. In the course of a short phone call the person has
done a complete 180. I'm still in awe of that.
One of my dear friends had this to say:
"How do you thank someone who comes into your life and
because of her influence your life is changed forever? Takara
has graced my life with her many talents and skills. Especially
through her healing arts (private sessions - http://www.dolphinempowerment.com/consulting.htm),
I have made quantum leaps forward in my life. At one crisis
point she was able to facilitate my integration of a significant
shift in only 10 minutes! Her knowledge, and keen ability
to share it, have enriched my life forever! Perhaps due to
her engineering and teaching background, she has an amazing
ability to take extremely complex concepts and information
and boil it down to bottom line usefulness with clarity. She
makes things implicitly simple and understandable to a lay
person. Her extensive studies in metaphysical and philosophical
areas allow her to create freeways for those of us who don't
have time to sift it all out. The clarity she creates with
her accelerated techniques allows you to quickly come on-line
with the information, to transition, and to push past limitations."
- Theresa Wright, Carlsbad, California
Transformation - it's such a beautiful thing.
I'm simply a facilitator and I know how to link up to higher
wisdom just when it's needed. And the energy that comes through
me is immensely centering, calming, and uplifting. Its truly
a gift. I feel blessed to have it. And heaven knows its being
utilized right now.
So if you find yourself needing help, I'm here.
I've added little *s after the article to define certain terms
that those brave enough to read my words, but new to spirituality
and energy medicine, might not understand.
My desire is that you become empowered to regain your own
magnificence by reading about my journey, experiences, and
insights.
May you be blessed in the radiance of The One. May you find
peace, joy, and upliftment in the words and energies that
accompany this message.
Take a slow deep breath. Focus on your heart and give thanks
for this moment.
Here we go . . .
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Upcoming Classes and Groups
Women Empowering Women - Join me for insight
& inspiration in learning to live in joy & become
your true magnificence! Find your still small voice &
learn to follow it in order to achieve your dreams! Women
Empowering Women is a monthly gathering for sharing, meditation,
laughter, storytelling, healing, sisterhood, & the savoring
of tea. Bring a healthy (or not) snack to share. $7 per person.
2nd Monday of each month at the Chrysalis on Main Street in
the heart of downtown Radford. (Begins September 14th)
The Energy Experience - join me for this
highly interactive monthly playshop where you will learn about,
and experience, numerous forms of energy healing - sound,
color, crysals, dowsing, feng shui, hands-on healing, flower
& gem essences, dolphin energetics, guided meditations,
& more. Wear comfortable clothing. New topic each month.
$10 per person. 4th Monday of each month at the Chrysalis
on Main Street in the heart of downtown Radford. (Begins September
28th)
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Lessons from a Wild Boar
Long ago and far away ... I had a visitation by a wild boar.
Now who on earth makes goofy statements like that? Seriously?
Sometimes I think I am the strangest person I know.
Anyway back to my tale . . .
Once upon a time back when I was first "waking up"
from my slumber of forgetting who I really am, I took an extremely
esoteric* class called Women's Wisdom. During one of the weekend
workshops we did a guided meditation** where you meet your
"totem animal"*** for each of your main energy centers
(chakras****).
We were at the part of the meditation for the heart chakra
and I saw myself standing in a beautiful meadow full of daisy's
and all of a sudden appearing in the meadow with me was this
wild boar. It was very angry. It snorted and began to charge
at me.
I found the whole thing truly odd. Especially since all the
other "totem animals" had been such sweet creatures
- like the orca (largest dolphin) for my 2nd chakra.
And instead of getting upset and feeling afraid I just stood
there looking at it - refusing to be intimidated by it's very
agressive and rude behavior. It was highly offended by that
too!
Anyway, after the "vision" part of the meditation
was over, I received the insight about what it meant: "No
matter how they are acting, all they want is love. Just like
everyone else."
That bit of wisdom is as true today as it was back in 1996
when I first saw the wild boar.
People behave oddly. They mistreat others. They sabatage their
own happiness. They do a million wrong things. But in the
end, everyone wants to be loved, accepted, and appreciated.
Remembering that helps me have more compassion for others
- particularly when they are behaving in a way that is unkind.
Most people just don't know how to go about getting what it
is that they want. And they don't know how to give that to
others either.
And on top of that, there are the 3 deepest human fears we
all have to contend with:
- fear of rejection
- fear of abandonment
- fear of unworthiness
We all experience some level of these. Usually one is stronger
than the others.
Yet at certain times or in certain situations, another one
will dominate.
My primary fear is unworthiness.
Being repremanded endlessly as a child and feeling like no
matter how well I did, it wasn't good enough, only helped
make that one more pronounced.
When I tell people I'm an only child, they immediately respond
with "spoiled." And I just look at them thinking
- "You have absolutely no idea what you are talking about.
Try living under a microscope because there are no other kids
to pay attention to and see how spoiled you feel."
It has its up side though - I tend to excel at most things
I do. I tenaciously go after what I want with a great deal
of drive and determination. I did very well in school. I was
the best dancer in my dance academy. I was President of the
Institute of Industrial Engineers student chapter at Virginia
Tech. It had 300 members. Yikes! That got me over my fear
of public speaking. Another Plus!
I got a great job right out of college. I was selected to
be part of a new plant start up when piles of other people
from my company were clamoring for the position. I tied for
best teacher / presenter when we ran all the people at the
new plant through an intense training program. I won a Managers
Award for Excellence for managing a multi-million dollar project
and the resulting product being so good that it became the
company standard worldwide.
Well isn't that all peachy and aren't I so grand?
Hardly!
Most of the time during the achievement of all that, I was
so stressed out fearing that it was all going to go wrong,
that I never enjoyed any of it. And in the end, I felt like
a failure around most of those things. I should have done
it this way or better or something.
The darn "shoulds" will kill you. Thank heavens
I've moved beyond needing to do things to gain the approval
of someone else and I've put most of the "shoulds"
behind me.
Why am I telling you all this?
Because most people are way too hard on themselves.
They spend so much time comparing who they are, how they look,
what they've accomplished, how much money they have, even
what their kids are doing, with others, that they don't enjoy
and appreciate their life.
And they fail to realize that the people they are comparing
themselves with are as afraid and have as many flaws as they
do.
We all have flaws. All of us. And we are all beautiful and
magnificent in our own way. We all make mistakes. We all have
weaknesses.
We all have strengths too.
I'll never forget seeing an interview with Janet Jackson after
she was given a 10 million dollar contract for something.
It was a big deal back at the time - especially since she
was a woman. Anyway, she basically said that even with all
that she still didn't feel like she was good enough.
Fear of being unworthy, undeserving, not enough.
You have to love and appreciate who you are before anyone
else can.
You are the most amazing creature. There is only one of you
in the entire Universe. You are fabulous.
So when you mess up - learn to laugh at yourself - or at least
don't be so hard on yourself.
When you observe yourself behaving strangely - getting upset
or angry or afraid - over something silly, be more gentle
with yourself and just realize its one of your beautiful little
quirks. And then try to make it right with those around you
affected by your odd behavior.
You are doing the best you can with what you've got. In the
future, as you learn and grow, you may do things differently.
But how you are right now is just fine.
And you are considered precious and are absolutely and unconditionally
loved by God (by whatever name you choose to call the Divine
Presence) just as you are.
Have a fantastic day,
Deb
* esoteric - "hidden" teachings or "mysteries"
known only by a few who are enlightened or initiated
** guided meditations - gentle music is playing to calm your
mind while a person speaks softly describing various scenes
that you visualize in your mind with your eyes closed
*** totem animal - from native or earth-based spiritual traditions,
an animal whose energy and qualities are there as your ally
much as an angel or archangel would be.
**** chakras - the word comes from the vedic tradition and
means wheel. Since the energy centers spin - which can be
seen by some, felt by others and measured with a pendulum,
wheel is appropriate. There are energy centers all over the
body, but there are 7 primary ones. How "open" they
are, the direction of the spin, and the magnitude of the spin,
directly affects not only the functioning of the body, but
certain aspects of life - money, relationships, etc. These
same energy centers are addressed in healing all over the
world. They are just most widely known by the term "chakra".
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What I've Got on Facebook
I'm on Facebook - well practically every day. Much of the
time that is about friendship, playfulness, and reconnecting
with old friends. But, often it involves insight and inspiration.
So I've decided to share a few of my posts for those who are
not on my "friends" list on Facebook.
"When you're not sure which way to turn - go inward and
give thanks. Works every time!"
"What do you do when life throws you a curve ball? How
you answer this question will make or break how happy you
are in life!" "Another aspect to this question -
do you 'fight' it tooth and nail, resisting the change - whatever
it looks like - as hard as you can, or do you accept it, embracing
it even, and flow with it? Do you blame someone or some thing
outside yourself for this change you don't like that is happening,
or do you view it a different way? Are you willing to try
something new if doing it the old way isn't working? Are you
willing to grow through your challenges?"
"The start of another new day and the beginning of a
new work week. How will you design it to suit your fancy?"
Comment from a friend - "Man, you are cheerful for a
Monday...how do you do that? Share the wealth!"
My response: "Learn to take great pleasure in the simplest
of things - the sun shining, a cup of hot tea, a phone call
from someone you haven't talked to in awhile, the butterfly
flitting past, or the bird singing outside in the trees. I
am writing a book about it and I am putting together a powerpoint
type movie and a workshop. So I'll be sharing the wealth with
lots of people. There are actually several "keys"
to a joy filled life. Savoring each moment is just one."
"Until you can love and appreciate who you are, no-one
else will. Self love - not from an egotistical perspective,
but from true acceptance."
"Laughter is usually the best remedy - regardless of
the problem."
Just little ideas I thought you might enjoy!
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Forgiveness and Gratitude
I've talked about this pair before. And many of you took advantage
of the deal I offered for the 2 not long ago. But they are
so important that I've decided to address them again.
(Besides, until you get this part handled, you aren't ready
for the new energy of Finally Free that I created recently.
And I want to be able to offer that to you soon.)
You must truly forgive others and yourself - for everything.
As long as you are anywhere in the "mourning" process
- still feeling sad, angry, or some other emotion when a certain
person or situation is discussed - you can never be happy
and you can never move on and create the life you desire.
Most of the time forgiveness is what is needed.
I've had some HUGE stuff to forgive - an unfaithful husband,
the guy who raped me, the business partner who was so unkind,
the friend who betrayed me, the woman who literally wanted
to steal my soul, the boss from h___, being forced into a
job I didn't want, and on and on it goes.
How about forgiving myself?
I had to forgive myself for some pretty big stuff as well:
putting myself in the situation that allowed the rape to happen,
marrying Jess' dad, getting involved with the business partner,
not getting out of my marriage sooner, and again there are
many other things that I've had to forgive myself for.
Forgiveness takes the emotional charge off the situation.
It doesn't mean what happened is totally O.K. with you and
you don't mind if the person or situation repeats itself.
It means you no longer blame the person or situation for your
unhappiness.
The "situation" happened - end of story. Now you
are older and hopefully wiser and will make different decisions
that might prevent a similar scenario. But that one needs
to be in the past where it belongs.
If the emotional charge is still there, you aren't living
in the now. You are living in the past. Now is the only place
you can create from. And now is the only place where joy can
reside.
Live, love, laugh happens right now! Savoring of each glorious
moment as it presents itself happens right now. Being in gratitude
and in joy happens right now.
So, once again I offer Forgiveness and Gratitude together
for $20 (regularly $17.95 each or $35.90). Follow this link
to get your forgiveness and gratitude now. Limit 3 per customer.
http://www.dancing-dolphin-essences.com/Whats-On-Sale.htm
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Have a fantastic day,
Deb
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